In modern Japanese society, interpersonal bonds seem to be weakening, especially among men. Several studies have highlighted that the proportion of men who do not spend time with friends or other people is significantly higher in Japan compared to other developed countries. This reality has sparked a debate about whether these men actually enjoy their solitude, whether they feel it as a burden, or whether they simply pretend to enjoy it.

A recent article titled “Why Are Japanese Men the Loneliest in the World?” put the spotlight on this problem. According to the article, Japan’s “social capital,” an indicator that measures trust and interpersonal relationships (according to the UK’s Legatum Institute, 2017 edition)places the country in 101st position among 149 countries, the lowest among developed nations.

One of the most surprising facts is the percentage of men who do not spend time with friends or acquaintances. In a comparative study conducted in 21 countries, Japanese men topped the list with 16.7% who admitted to not spending time with friends, compared with just 1% in Sweden and 4% in the United States.

However, this phenomenon cannot be interpreted solely as a problem of unwanted loneliness. In Japan, The culture of “おひとり様” (ohitori-sama), or enjoying activities alone, is deeply rooted. Many people find satisfaction and fulfillment in pursuing their hobbies and activities alone. For some, this lifestyle is not a sign of isolation, but rather a conscious choice that allows them to make better use of their time.

It is true that loneliness can have adverse effects on health, increasing the risk of mental and physical problems. However, it is essential to distinguish between those who suffer from a lack of companionship and those who value their independence.

To better understand this duality, research was conducted focusing on “ojisan” (middle-aged and older men) who are prone to loneliness due to the Japanese social structure. An attempt was made to investigate the true feelings of these men.: Are you really enjoying solitude or are you simply adapting to a circumstance imposed by society?

The answer to this question is complex and cannot be generalized. While some may be dealing with loneliness negatively, others may find it a source of freedom and self-discovery. What is clear is that the perception of loneliness in Japan is multifaceted and addressing this issue requires a deep understanding of the country's cultural norms and social dynamics.

Source: DIAMOND ONLINE

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